Originally posted 6/23/08
Today I took the girls for haircuts. A wanted her hair longer like K's, but since we couldn't do that K got hers cut short like A's and got bangs!! They are so sweet.While we were there the lady who cut A's hair asked me, "And where did you get this one?" I was not sure how I should answer this question as I have not really had questions like this before. I have read about many people who deal with questions worse than this, but had not had any myself. After pausing for a moment I answered that A was born in China. She said "duh! How did you get her?" Again, I didn't know if she was really curious about the adoption process or just being rude. So my response was, "Well, we first had to chose an agency and after two long years of prayer, paperwork, and waiting we were finally able to go to China to bring her home." She went on about the cost and I answered the best I could about the fees involved. I really didn't want to continue with the conversation but she was still cutting A's hair.
Luckily K helped change the subject without even knowing it. She is such a lifesaver. I usually don't mind at all talking about our adoption experience, especially if it will lead someone to prayerfully consider adoption themselves, but I did not feel right about her questions.
2 joyful comments: - Beverly said...
- Yes the difficulty is knowing if the questions are curiosity or genuine and answering with said child right in front listening. Sounds like you handled it well. Congrats on your weight loss and the hair cuts are cute.
- Holly said...
- You know, I have had several people outrigt ask me "How much did he cost?" (apalling, isn't it?) I answer, "HE didn't cost a dime, after all, who can put a price on the life of a child? The legal expenses of the adoption were comparable to a 9 month pregnancy and delivery without insurance." That usually shuts them up!
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